Accelerate leadership effectiveness – by giving up
A leader is one who influences or leads others.
Think about how you would define yourself as a leader and all things that you do as a leader. Do you believe you have the potential to be a great leader?
Leadership has been described as “a process of social influence in which one person can enlist the aid and support of others in the accomplishment of a common task.
Think about what your common tasks are for your business and how your leadership makes this happen. How effective are your leadership principles in the accomplishment of tasks? Do you carry too much of the burden? Maybe it is time to surrender…
When you think about surrender, you don’t likely think of great leadership.
People who surrender, lose, right? But in order to lead effectively, whether on the shop floor, the cube farm or anywhere else, there are things the best leaders can – and do – surrender. And when you surrender these things, you accelerate your influence and effectiveness as a leader.
The dictionary tells us that surrender, as a verb, means things like:
- “To yield possession or power”
- “To give (oneself) up”
- “To give up, abandon or relinquish”
These are hardly the ideas that we connect with leaders we aspire to emulate…or is it?
Great leaders surrender…
1. The need to be right
The best leaders know that the goal is for the group to get the best result. It doesn’t have to be their idea, and in fact, even if it is, it will be more effective when the group feels they own it. They also know that an “I told you so”, is never a valuable part of a coaching session.
2. The need to speak first
The best leaders know they will, in many situations, achieve more and get better results if they shut up. They let their teams talk, discuss and explore. They know that when they start talking they might inhibit the ideas and input from the team. So they remain quiet and wait.
3. The need to decide
Yes, there is a time for leaders to make decisions, but it isn’t all the time. Often, when leaders let go of their need to decide, others will make the same decision, if not a better one.
4. The need for credit
This is related to the need to be right, but adds an additional component. Leaders who usurp all the credit for the success of their team won’t have the support of their team very long.
5. The need for control
Often people aspire to leadership roles precisely because they want to have control. Yet how many micro managers and control-mongers do you want to follow?
Do you notice how all these things are framed as needs? Because we see them as needs, surrendering them feels like such a loss. But are they truly needs, or just strong wants? And while you may want these things (a lot), you likely want some other things too.
Great leaders want…
1. Greater results
The best leaders lead because they know they can’t do it alone. They want their team to hit high targets, make progress and have success.
2. Greater influence
Different than power, influence is granted by others, when they choose to listen, to follow and to change.
3. Greater satisfaction
Who doesn’t want greater satisfaction form their work? Great leaders get great satisfaction from both the growth of their team members in both skills and confidence. They know they didn’t do it for them, but they get a deep satisfaction for their contribution.
4. Greater significance
Great leaders want to make a difference, leave a legacy and make things better. Few things feel better than knowing you have truly made a difference.
Great leaders want these things. Highly effective human beings want these things. And if you want the last four things, you must surrender the first five.
If you agree that the last four are more meaningful and important, it will be easier (though not necessarily easy) to let go of, abandon, or surrender the first five. Think of the last four as the reason to let go.
When you see this – you have a glimpse of the great leader you can become.
What will you let go of? What will you surrender today?
The material above was produced by Kevin Eikenberry who is an expert in developing organisational and individual potential. You can visit his website at: www.kevineikenberry.com.